Fail to know how to engage properly could condemn you to a life of social alienation

talking about sth that's in your daily life, everyone can feel relate to and forget about it easily

you can talk about how nice today's weather is, but dont mention the climate change

you can talk about the health of your plant, but dont mention that it's a painful reminder of your ex..she gave it to you because she loves you but you are emotionally unavailable to her